As human beings, our top priority has not always been to be happy. We are meant to survive, and pass our genes on. Over the years, when the need to “survive” disappeared, we began to experience things we had probably not yet experienced and we became addicted to the pursuit of these feelings (maybe because of social media and the fake reality some people show us). The first thing you can understand from that is that if you are not happy 24/7, that’s fine. It would have been more worrying if you were happy 24/7.

The second thing that can be concluded is that this pursuit of constant happiness is meaningless. The reason we believe it is meaningless is that the goal that millions of people set for themselves, to be happy all the time, is not achievable. Think about it. A person who has not experienced a single difficulty in his life, is he happy? How does he know if he is happy or not? Does he even understand the meaning of happiness? The meaning of happiness without sadness is the same as the meaning of light in a world without darkness. Is it?

And although we are unable to reach a state of perpetual happiness, nor do we have reason to aspire to it, there are some key points to a happier life.
For the following habits each of the Cap staff tried to adopt, so we unanimously agreed to share with you tips that helped us be happier.

Your happiness cannot be depended on others

Some of you may see this as a cliché, but you will not believe the amount of people who fail to be happy without certain people by their side. It could be your parents, a friend or a girlfriend, a spouse. These will usually be the people who we have the most fun around and can trust them with anything. But every person should be his own light. Every person should know how to feel comfortable and good solely with himself. Do you feel good in your own company? Do you love yourself? Do you trust yourself? If not here’s a new task just for you! Start by writing a diary (or lists) and write these things in your diary:

a. write your tasks, (be sure to do them so you will know that you can trust yourself)
b. Write your good qualities
c. write your abilities 
d. write your bad traits (which will go into the list or to-do list. There you will work on getting rid of the bad traits, and replacing them with good ones).

Some of your bad traits may one day appear to you as good traits. But as long as you accept yourself, and love yourself, the goal has been achieved.

Loving the environment

yes, we said we need to find happiness within ourselves. But that does not mean that one should be isolated. Humans (like many other animals in nature) are social creatures. So to some extent, we do need the right environment for ourselves. It turns out that one of the best ways to contribute to ourselves (our happiness) is to actually contribute to our environment. It does not have to be our close environment, it is simply about the environment in which you live. The more you give, the more satisfied you will feel after the act. Try to pay attention to the beauty that is in the little things. Smile at the people on the street, say thank you to the security guard, open the door for someone, help the neighbors pick up the shopping bags, and the list goes on. Let your creativity flourish.
And finally, make room for your closest circle. A recent study has shown that people who maintain close contact with people live longer!

The ability to forgive 

The ability to forgive is something very difficult for a large part of the population. There is a well-formulated question on the subject, which is addressing the people who are unable to forgive: “If you receive 86,400 dollars every day, will you throw all that money in the trash if someone steals 600 dollars from you?” Of course the answer to the question is no. We may be very upset for 10 minutes of our day. 10 minutes which is 600 seconds, out of a full 24 hours we have in a day. Does it make sense to “throw in the trash” an entire day, because they angered us, hurt us, or insulted us for ten minutes?
You may want to draw conclusions, draw lessons, maybe stay away from the person who hurt you. But we promise you, there will be no benefit in punishing yourself with negative emotions for the rest of the day. Learn to forgive them, but do not forget.
We think that a great article of ours on this topic is how the past can help you.

Gratitude

with everyday life, we sometimes forget to pay attention to the things we have in life. Sometimes we forget that our loved ones are still alive, that we are still alive, that we have a roof over our heads, and that we have the freedom to choose what we want to do in life.
Every day before bed, or before you get out of bed, make a list (even if only in your head) with at least 5 things for which you cherish gratitude in your life.

Self-review

 learn to check yourself and not your environment, sometimes you and the neighbor go to buy synthetic grass from the same seller, and still, the neighbor’s grass looks greener. It is difficult for an individual to criticize himself or comparing yourselves to others, and in our opinion, it is really unnecessary. you will learn to value yourself, compare yourself to the person you were yesterday, did you improve from yesterday, or did you stay the same? We believe the best way to improve is to compare yourself from yesterday to the self today and strive to be the best version of yourself in 5 years.

If you liked this article you should read this artical about Winners.

good luck!

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